Goal Achievement

In our last article we were discussing the different ways that you can overcome shyness and social anxiety.  So with that, let’s continue. 12 Steps to Overcoming Shyness and Social Anxiety – Part II 7. Be The First To Initiate Don’t wait for others to introduce you; you should initiate the introduction.  I recently saw U.S. President Barack H. Obama on television; he was walking into a voting location to cast his ballot for the 2012 U.S. Presidential Election.  I watched to see how his demeanor differed from others. Here’s what stood out:  he walked confidently with a smile on his face, and he  took …

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Shyness and social anxiety are usually the result of an overly excited amygdala (a portion of the brain that receives stimulation based on your surroundings).  Individuals who are shy or socially anxious typically have an amygdala that is extremely sensitive (in part due to their genetics, in part due to the way they were raised).  Shy or socially anxious individuals perceive unknown situations as highly threatening. This feeling of being “threatened” would be beneficial if you were being chased by a lion; causing your mind to focus solely on what is critical to save your life.  However, your mind “going …

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There is no such thing as “confidence;” there is only confident behavior that results from confident thinking. “Confident” people are people who are in the habit of portraying confident behaviors.  The more you “act” confidently, the more confident you will become. You start off “faking” confidence, and you actually trick your mind into thinking that you are a confident person.  The more you fake it, the more genuine the confidence becomes. Thinking confidently is a choice, you can choose to be shy and quiet, or you can choose to be confident. There are times when you “act” shy, and there are …

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61 Ways to Appear Confident – At Work: 1. Have a strong, loud voice with resonance; try to be the loudest voice in the room (without being obnoxious).  The loudest person is usually perceived as the most powerful person. 2. Posture, Posture, Posture!  Stand and sit upright at all times. 3. Take up Space, own your surroundings; use large hand gestures, lean back in your chair, cross your legs 4. Look relaxed and poised at all times 5. Respect your bosses, but treat them like peers 6. Keep a level head, literally (both vertically and horizontally) 7. Don’t fidget or …

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As I’m sure you know, bad habits are formed as a way to cope with negative emotions.  You feel sad, and so you overeat, or you get drunk, or you gamble away your paycheck.  But this doesn’t have to be, you can learn to cope with your emotions in a healthy way, and this brief article will show you how. First Things First Note: The techniques in this article will only work if you are legitimately ready to break the habit.  And by “ready to break the habit,” I mean that you have a compelling reason to break the habit; …

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If you want to get promoted on your job, get fit, go back to school, write a book, launch an album, or a business, I have the solution for you… Quit talking about it, stop waiting for permission, and do it… At the end of the day, all the talk, and all the reasons, and all of the excuses, count for absolutely nothing – a chasing after the wind.  You’re wasting time that could have been used productively to actually: “do it.” Socrates said “to do, is to be;” the only thing that matters is what you’re doing today.  Are …

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Thinking about giving up?  Below are the five reasons you should continue, when you feel like giving up. When the going gets tough, the tough get motivated. 5 Ways to Stay Motivated, When You Feel Like Giving Up: 1. Remember It’s Not Easy If what you were trying to accomplish was easy, everyone would be doing it.  If there was a quick fix, if you could work hard for a little while, and then have outrageous success, the line to sign-up for that activity would be “out the door.” What you’re trying to accomplish is challenging, it’s hard work, its …

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